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We can have happiness in any moment.

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On a zoom call I floated the idea "We can have happiness in any moment that happiness is a decision". But it made me realize I didn't give the steps to achieve said happiness. Because if we can decide to be happy at any moment, that doesn't mean we're going to be happy in the moment, It means we've got to take next steps. Let’s discuss some of those steps.

Episode Notes

On a zoom call I floated the idea "We can have happiness in any moment that happiness is a decision".  But it made me realize I didn't give the steps to achieve said happiness.  Because if we can decide to be happy at any moment, that doesn't mean we're going to be happy in the moment, It means we've got to take next steps.  Let’s discuss some of those steps.

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Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:02 I am going to talk about that we can have happiness in any moment. That happiness is a decision and what are some implications of that.  And what is a more effective way for me to talk about that? And I, I, because I realized like today I wrote down that, yeah, we can have happiness in any moment. And happiness is a decision. And then I ended up on this zoom group meeting where I got to lead a talk, or I got to share first. And so I got to talk about that idea, that happiness is a decision then I think, and what happens is inevitably somebody goes to the extreme circumstance. Well, if you had this circumstance that is so extreme, of course you can't decide to be happy in this circumstance. And I framed that as well. And, and, um, what I realized though, well. What I realized after some other people had shared and discussed was that I gave no steps or no framework.

Mischa Z: 01:22 So I just floated idea, and then it can sound great, but I'm not like here's actionable. Here's how it's actionable or going a little bit deeper with it. And so I had said, you know, Hey, happiness is a decision. Oftentimes when we talk about that, somebody are automatically goes to the extreme. I sent that to, so then I got to pick someone to share next. So I picked someone to share next, and that person says "I disagree because here's the circumstances". And that when I floated the idea, I said, you know, we can be happy in any moment in spite of our circumstances, like, if we're depending on circumstances for our happiness, that's an exercise in futility. And so this person said, well, "I disagree", which is cool. And we were having fun. And I was laughing at myself. And so she said, Hey, you know, I've got a sister who's one of my daughters just got real sick. My other daughter just broke her neck and something else happened. And so she's like, "I can't be happy".

Mischa Z: 02:58 And the thing is, there's no opportunity to rebut. So I was just listening and going, huh, that's interesting. You know, that's, those can be seemingly times when you can not be happy. Right. And so there was great conversation back, or there was a great conversation with other people as they talked about it. Um, but it really got me thinking that, okay, "What if happiness is a decision"? "What are the steps to happiness?" Because I think if you decide to be, if we can decide to be happy at any moment, that doesn't mean we're going to be happy in the moment we've got to take next steps. And that was sort of my aha, like breakthrough thinking right there. The next time I have an opportunity in front of people, or if I'm having a discussion with a friend or an interested, willing listener, the captive audience, like you on this podcast right now that let's talk about the steps. So I think first, clearly you need to be willing. You need to be willing to think that that's possible. Maybe you don't. I think it would be nice. Like that lady clearly was not willing. She's like, no, I'm not willing. She already, the circumstances popped up in her head. She was in a state of, of unhappiness, as she said in the moment, I'm not happy because of my two daughters who are going through distress.

Mischa Z: 04:39 And, uh, which makes me think of a lot of great stuff of, of, of, of, about that. But I'll save that for, for either if I have enough time here or for another episode. So let me get back to it. So, okay. Happiness is a decision. I'm willing to be happy. Okay. So what's the next thing. The next thing is, all right. One tool would be to take a big breath in and a big breath out. Just let that powerful breath that God centered breath can pull you into the moment. And then what would be a next step you could do, you could talk to your higher power or that thing that is greater than you, that hopefully you can put some, some belief into or trust into or something again. And so perhaps you could, uh, turn to that. Grow your God, shall we say?

Mischa Z: 05:48 So I love that idea. Next time I have the opportunity in public to talk about happiness as a choice or a decision then to say, all right, Hey, we gotta be willing be we gotta take a big breath in. And then, you know, C, D N E for example, and I don't have C, D E. That's all out of the top of my head, but, but, uh, you know, what do I do because I am working on happiness in the moment. So the big deep breath, and then talking to God, and if I am in the state of resentment, do the resentment tools. If I'm in a state of fear about a situation, what are the, you know, is it, is, is a big breath in and a prayer enough, or do I need to pull out pen and paper or do I need to grab some of my literature that reinforces happiness in the moment? Or, you know, I'm just thinking about all these cool ways to come back to the moment.

Mischa Z: 07:14 And I will... In a perfect world, I'd have had more of those penciled out before I started recording this episode. But I think you get what I'm saying. And I think I would have been more effective today on that zoom group meeting that I got to lead. If I would have, when I floated the idea that you can "happiness is a decision" that I could have given examples, real life, examples of myself, and how did I, what were the steps I took to bring, to bring me back to happiness in the moment? So, um, there you have it. That's what, uh, you know, I, I guess to, you know, I'm on this two CCX, this Russell Brunson thing, this learning how to be a more effective storyteller, a more effective teacher, a more to carry a more poignant message. And so that's what really got me thinking about, about the happiness in the moment. I'm like, oh yeah, I'm saying that, but I'm not perhaps talking about the, learned it and earned it, or here's the framework and the steps, here's this here's I gave you the strategy. Now here's the tactics you can use, um, to achieve that.

Mischa Z: 08:52 And, uh, you know, there's, there is some literature that was, yes, thank you. Sorry, I'm a bit scattered, but, or, or pinging around, but I realize as well that I could have referenced some literature that is powerful, that affirms that idea. And it's common literature that is common knowledge, style literature, you know? And, uh, so I can be like, Hey, if you believe that this person is valid in their thinking, then, you know, here's the literature that they've produced. Here's what they say to do. Right. Okay. Does that, does that make sense? Am I making sense here people? I hope so. Um, happiness is a decision. We need to be a willing, then we need to at least take a breath, big breath in long breath out to come back to the moment. And then perhaps depending on what type of discontent is it, is it some fears of losing what I have or not getting what I want? Or is it, is it, you know, Familia, family, tension, strife, kids being sick, or I, I dunno, you get it. I'm done. I'm just digging the, digging the hole deeper. I hope this episode gets published. Love to all.