I’ve know Janice on the periphery for 13 years and when I saw she had a book coming out I had to interview her for the podcast. The transformation she has embraced, the passion she brings… She is so dedicated to community and has such a momentous energy… I new it was going to be fun, profound, and perhaps irreverently entertaining. The universe did not disappoint.
I’ve know Janice on the periphery for 13 years and when I saw she had a book coming out I had to interview her for the podcast. The transformation she has embraced, the passion she brings… She is so dedicated to community and has such a momentous energy… I new it was going to be fun, profound, and perhaps irreverently entertaining. The universe did not disappoint.
Notes:
(Janice B Mulligan, aka Janice M. Just released an awesome book of daily inspirations called “Power in the Pause”, and her story "Unexpected Outcomes" is in JB Owens compilation “Ignite Happiness”).
Janice’s book “Power in the Pause: Daily Inspirations, A Path Toward Change” can be found here www.sobrietyrocks365.com
JB Owens compilation “Ignite Happiness”, which I reference, can be found here: (Janice's story begins on page 108) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1792341717/ref=cm\_sw\_em\_r\_mt\_dp\_JQJNDZYN8CEERCR97RT0
I read her 4 or 5 page story in the book “Ignite Happiness” and I was sobbing… it was profound for me… there were the suicides that were around her… and she tells how she had this moment of awareness that she is these teenagers that are killing themselves but perhaps she is just taking a longer route…
Which leads me to this question “Was I just so connected to source in the moment that like it was so impactful for me or do you find that people resonate with these stories?” I find that people resonate, it connects me with others. “I can identify, I understand, I know what it is to endure loss, I know what it is to endure loss as a young child.”
I had said forget you to source… and that’s ok. You can come back.
Surrender.
She was a Marine for 5 years. From the age of 19. She’s 6 foot tall… She did not look like her average Marine.
She has a Son who’s 28… She might be considered a Jerry Springer show, because she has 5 kids with 3 babies daddies. “they are all mine”.
Her addictions start when she was 12… “I’m not much but I’m all I think about.” I don’t have to do that anymore… You can always come back to where you’re at?
What’s Christmas like? Christmas now is much different. She’s proud of her son who is buying a house, has girlfriend and has a dog…
There were some heavy Christmases, there were a lot of feelings… no one wants to have a separated household…
There was a time when my oldest daughter moved to her dads… It was not in my plan… There was a lot of anxiety and feelings… My daughter hated me. There was still a lot of healing that needed to transpire. Perhaps I created a situation that was unapproachable. My kids were afraid of me… I was not very soft.
The Christmases got better… Everyone spends the night at my house :). There is less anxiety that comes from the holidays.
Expectations and control. Let them down. “What if we all just relax and enjoy?”
JB Owen - she put together the compilation book of the different authors… There are 42 authors in “Ignite Happiness”. A friend introduces Janice to JB to perhaps get help with Janice writing a daily inspirations book (which becomes Janice’s “Power in the Pause” book)… And JB invites Janice to put her story into “Ignite Happiness”.
How about the bottom you talk about in “Ignite Happiness” which you sprung from 13 years ago? I was 36, I had 4 kids, I was planning a wedding. I was literally exhausted I was dying. I was being eaten alive from the inside out… I was in the wedding dress store and I had that bitch slap, that god shot…
The ignite action steps at the end… “Tell me about those moments.” It was everything I needed that I didn’t know I needed… “Being able to open yourself up and crack yourself open and show your kids that your vulnerable and that you love them is powerful.” “10 years ago I was not cracked open I was not very loving… Today I get to be loving.” I don’t have to be the hard ass… I’ve learned so much from my daughters.
There is nothing more powerful than losing my shit and sobbing in front of one of my girls. And letting them know it is ok to be hurt, it’s ok to make a mistake, it’s ok to be let down, it’s ok to be disappointed. I’m not that strong, and to let my kids know that is more powerful than anything.
Let’s talk about your book “Power In The Pause”. How does that come about? It’s published under Janice M. due to the anonymous nature. After hemming and hawing about asking to ask for permission to quote other works… A friend encourages her, “Why don’t you just ask?” And through serendipitous events the answer is a quick “yes”… JB was perfect for her and the “Power In The Pause”. “Wow, I wrote that!” …If I’m not connected to source and I’m not doing what I need to do in the morning than then something like this will throw me off course.
I’m an amateur, I’m not a professional, I have to not take myself so seriously.
I was annoying, I was intolerant, I was unstable. My higher power put people in my life to stabilize me to show me the way.
Your significant others sacrifice some of your time with them when you embrace recovery. It can be hard.
My kids are amazing… If somebody is listing to this and waiting for their kid to call them and tell em that they love em, you got it wrong. It doesn’t work like that. It’s my job as their mom to let them know I’m proud of them and to let them know that I love them and to let them know I’m thinking of them… …they love me and I love them. They feel safe to come to me and to tell me stuff that I don’t want to know. They know to show up. They know to show up for each other. I have these daughter and they show up When I was that age I wasn’t able to show up.
Her soul shed? I couldn’t walk up the stairs anymore. Some necessity is the mother of invention.
I have a gift. And I know that I’m connected. And for some reason people like being accountable to me. I want to help people completely transform their life. I believe the morning routine is the most important.
Janice is available for coaching. She’s not quite sure how this is all gonna play out, but she is available for coaching. “I’m like the cliff note kind of a girl”.
Janice’s book “Power in the Pause: Daily Inspirations, A Path Toward Change” can be found here www.sobrietyrocks365.com Janice is available for coaching just click on that link!
JB Owens compilation “Ignite Happiness” can be found here:https://www.amazon.com/dp/1792341717/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_JQJNDZYN8CEERCR97RT0
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