A follow up to the "Happiness in the moment episode." This idea of we can be free of circumstances dictating our happiness. And if the circumstance is extreme enough, then it will make us unhappy. I discuss this in relation to having kids. And what if our kids get hurt? Can we find happiness in our genetic code as we are designed by the universe? Can we find happiness and bliss in that versus being upset? Can we be happy in our upsetedness?
A follow up to the "Happiness in the moment episode." This idea of we can be free of circumstances dictating our happiness. And if the circumstance is extreme enough, then it will make us unhappy. I discuss this in relation to having kids. And what if our kids get hurt? Can we find happiness in our genetic code as we are designed by the universe? Can we find happiness and bliss in that versus being upset? Can we be happy in our upsetedness?
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Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:02 Okay. I am going to try, try to do a follow up episode to the happiness in the moment episode. The last episode I published right before this one was we can find, we can have happiness in any moment. Happiness is a decision and, um, I wanted to do a follow-up email to that. It's very late at night and I am super tired. I am just about to go on a camping trip, leaving tomorrow for four days and, uh, worked hard to get four podcast episodes scheduled. So they're scheduled to be, um, released while I'm gone. So I feel really good about that, but that was, it's a lot of work scheduling four episodes in a day, um, you know, working them all up and editing them and all of that. And then also I put together an email to be sent while I'm gone to my fledgling email list.
Mischa Z: 01:18 I now have a fledgling eel key mail list to go along with my fledgling podcast. Perhaps you are on my fledgling email list as well as being a listener of the podcast. And the reason I'm I'm recording this episode as well is I'm about to go on a camping trip. So I won't be recording an episode for most likely four days. My phone will probably run out of battery on the camping trip. Um, and so I doubt if I will be recording anything. And then also I wanted to stretch myself with the idea of this episode. So here we go, happiness in the moment. Part two, happiness is a decision. So in the first happiness is a decision episode. I was talking about that this lady friend, who, whose two children, I had said, Hey, happiness is a decision. And she said, I disagree because one of my kids broke her hip.
Mischa Z: 02:33 One of my kids broke her neck and, um, two daughters that are have kids and things. So they're they're of age they're well, you know, thirties or forties or fifties, perhaps even like somewhere in there, these daughters. So, you know, it's this idea of we can be free of circumstances dictating our happiness and part of that as well. If the circumstance is extreme enough, then it will make us unhappy. And so I have kids, this lady has kids and they both have been injured. And so she's upset and she is unhappy. And the way she described it was really interesting. Or this is the way I heard it, right. This could so two things first off as a mother. So I'm a father, right? So as a mother, like moms are genetically designed to be concerned for their kids. I believe, right? As a mother of a mother, any Mo there's listening to this episode, of course, you're going to be worried about your child no matter what their age, my mother, even when I was, you know, in my thirties.
Mischa Z: 04:01 And she passed away when I was young forties, I think 40, I don't know how old I was, maybe 45 or something or somewhere in there. But constantly, you know, packing me a lunch for my, for my airplane, rides home, even in my forties, you know, giving me snack packs, whatever. And, uh, when I was young, it used to make me mad in my late teens and early twenties. They'd be like, mom, I'm a grown up. I learned to love it. Of course. Mom being a mom. And of course I miss that. Now, you know, the SA the bagel sandwiches for the plane ride home. And as you're walking out the door, um, she lived in Berkeley and I live in Encinitas, but, um, as a father. So I think this is one way to think about it when your kids are old enough. And you're like, well, my daughter injured herself so I am unhappy.
New Speaker: 05:10 That's sort of a, a righteous agenda. It's almost like saying, look what my daughter has done to me to affect my happiness as a father or as a mother. Right. And that's such an interesting way to look at it, to be like, wait a minute. You know? And, and then also at some point we've got to trust in God that our, our kids are going through what they need to go. They need to be. And so the bigger we can grow that the more we're in acceptance of what our kids get to go through. And that would also say, as a mother, I'm assuming genetically who you're, you're by genetic disposition, your have concern and love and worry, and you don't want to see your kids suffer, but can you find happiness in that mothering when your kids are injured or going through a hard time or, or something like that.
Mischa Z: 06:25 And I think that's an awesome way to look at it. Same as a father. So instead of as a father, you know, whatever father instincts I have, when the son, my sons are sussing them out of me, his 20 year old boys, young men today they're 20 and 18. Can I find a happiness in my genetic coding as a father versus upsettedness, right? So if they're, if they're missing a college payment due to irresponsibility, and that irritates me as a father, can I find a joy and happiness in that. And that, oh, I know it sounds crazy, but I think that that's the way for me that the more I can look at things like that, the freer I can be because it is a decision. So I think perhaps if I have an opportunity to have a discussion with that lady who was like, no, I am not happy because my kids, her daughters are injured and I got the impression, it was nothing that was life-threatening or anything, but no buts. I'm hedging right there. To say, Hey, like, okay, you feeling your motherly concern? Can you embrace your genetic code and find happiness in that? In your mothering?
Mischa Z: 08:17 Anyhow, there you go. Part two, I'm trying to keep my episodes at eight minutes. I noticed when I'm on zoom, I tend to go a little bit longer because it's a lot harder to watch the clock, versus when I'm on my iPhone, I can see the, the timer is much more prevalent. So you know exactly where you are. Time-wise. I'm really practicing on keeping my episodes at eight minutes, mostly because it's easier to edit them easier and quicker. Versus when you start getting into 15 or 20 minute episode, man, that's a lot more work twice as much work. Anyway, I'm done part two happiness in the moment. Can we find happiness as our genetic code as we're designed by the universe? Can we find happiness and bliss in that versus versus being upset? Can we be happy in our upsetedness? How's that? That's a better way to put it. All right. Love to all I'm done. I am camping for four days. Peace out, but no peace out there will be an episode every day. So it's kind of cool. There's there's no gap. All right, I'm done.