I ask a friend to give me his honest opinion on my three best innate characteristics. And my three biggest blind spots… And I get great insights in to both fronts. Perhaps I have a tendency towards narcissism on my podcast! …But I’m trying to be of service! You can always learn what not to do! LOL. Enjoy this episode.
I ask a friend to give me his honest opinion on my three best innate characteristics. And my three biggest blind spots… And I get great insights in to both fronts. Perhaps I have a tendency towards narcissism on my podcast! …But I’m trying to be of service! You can always learn what not to do! LOL. Enjoy this episode.
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Transcript: 00:02 I was asking my good friend Earston we hadn't talked for a couple weeks, and I want to talk about being of service versus being narcissistic, being of service versus being narcissistic. What a fine line that can seem to be. And perhaps, in my narcissism, I still have an opportunity to be of service. I don't know. But let's get into it. I, again, was talking to my good friend first and, and we talk every week or every couple weeks, and he's a he's a musician. close to my age, you can plow back through some episodes to find out how old I am. But he's re inspired over the past couple of years to to really go after that. Musician dream. And you can check him out Earston Pearcy. He's got some music out there. Sorry, you're assumed to put you out there. Not necessarily the main purpose here. But anyway, there's Earston and I, you know, both creative and are always trying to be supportive of each other and and so I asked Earston today, what are my top three positives? I can't remember how I framed it. But something like that are the top three. What are my top threes good things about me. Attributes characteristics, and he said some very nice things. And they were in regards to, you know, curiosity, wonder and how I bring that curiosity and wonder to the interviews that I do. To The Summit that I did. The Summit interviews for The Tools For A Good Life Summit interviews.
02:11 You can check them out at www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com. And said, I bring that curiosity, true curiosity, childlike curiosity and wonder and, and being interested to the interviews that I do. And I'm conscientious and caring and thoughtful and some other nice things in there. And he said some cool things about my character, as well first. You know, good friend, loyal, supportive, spiritual, you know, trustworthy. Couple of other cool things that were super fun to hear.
02:52 And thank you for listening to that. My narcissist, grandiose side coming out. And so I said, well, Earston of all right, give me the top three blind spots that I have, or, you know, try not to call it negative, but maybe growth opportunities or some such thing, I believe I called them blind spots. And he thought for a minute, you know, 15 or 30 seconds. And I recommend anybody do this with their a good friend who knows them, who is willing to put their put themselves on the line. And get ready for the feedback to that's the rest of the story, get ready of the feedback for the feedback.
03:46 Anthony trucks actually talked about this in the Tools For A Good Life Summit interview that I did with him. So again, you can go to tools, you can go to www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com. And one of the things that Anthony said to do was, you know, purposefully, or intentionally reach out to your the closest people in your network and ask them for feedback. You know, what are my positives that you see in me? What are my supposedly negatives? What are my blind spots? And, and I thought, Yeah, that's great. I'd actually have done that before. And I think in this iteration of what I'm up to, it was valuable to do it again. So I asked him to Earston it. And he said, Well, you know, because you know how there's so many people out there on social media and podcasts or whatever, you know, they're, they're just super narcissistic, and they're just like, it's all about them.
05:01 Like the people that are healers, like the people that are bringing something like they're trying to serve carry a positive message or not a positive message, but but he said it in a way of people that are, are being helpful. It's a helpful message, they're trying to help be helpful to the audience. And listening, okay, okay. And he drops the narcissist word sometimes a couple of times. And I'm not saying you do this, I'm not saying you do this. But, you know, he went on a little two or three minute rant, which was very gracious.
05:37 And Earston. I hope you're listening to this episode, I know that I love you. And it's super fun to, to talk about this. And ersten by the way, you are very supportive of me, thank you so much. One of the previous episodes I did was who's supportive of you, who is consistently supportive of you and your efforts in what you do. And Earston, my friend, you are one of those people. You are very supportive me supportive of me in my endeavors. And so anyhow, he goes, he's just talking about, you know, people talking to hear themselves talk and, and being narcissistic, and this and that, and I'm not saying you do it all the time... So I'm like, so let me ask you. Are you saying that? Sometimes it can seem like I'm just talking to hear myself talk? Or I can't remember exactly how I said it?
06:39 He does get sometimes not all the time, because clearly you're trying to be useful or helpful, or, or what have you. And he goes, and you're pumping out an episode every day. So it's gonna be hard, sometimes, not to have it be about you. And oh, my gosh, it was so sweet the way he said it. But I heard it. Right. And I think it's a great question. And it's a it's a question that I try to ask myself, as I'm putting out the content that I'm putting out on social media or I'm barely I'm on social media, I need to do it more. Whatever need means is part of the master plan. Perhaps I'm not doing it yet, because I don't know how to do it from a service standpoint.
07:33 But yeah, so you know, I'm, I think it's a valuable question that I need to ask myself, "How am I being of service with my message?" And "am I being of service?" and I try to I, my listener, friends here who faithfully Listen, or if you're a new listener, please know that I try. I'm trying trying to be of service I'm trying to carry a message of of, you know, hope change, trying new things. That's a big part of what I'm doing is you get to go on my journey with me as I try new things, try podcasting try summits try creating sale-able content here soon, hopefully. Whether that's courses or who knows what it is, you know, high end coaching or high ticket high ticket that's what it's cold in the online world high ticket offerings? Or, or who knows maybe hard good products? What have you babbling a little bit at this point, but just trust that I am. You know, I, I do circle back around to that. God, universe? Source, how can I be of service here help me be of service and so I'm trying the best I can.
09:05 And if I come off a little self aggrandizing that's the right word, self aggrandizing or narcissistic or it's all about me talking to hear myself talk, there's no doubt that that's happening sometimes. So thank you for your patience with me and, and Dino, again, that I'm trying, I'm trying to bring the messages that I learned or that not the messages, the the, the incremental learnings that I've had, through my experience and through the things I'm doing now and trying to convey that. And my frustrations, my trials, tribulations and trying to be vulnerable. Maybe I'm going down the narcissistic path right now? Again, I'm sorry.
10:01 I'm trying, but I'm going to end with this. So there's a great thought of, of perhaps in my narcissism or perhaps in it being about me, there's lessons to be learned from you, as well. When I'm in that space, you can be like, perhaps, hey... if I'm creating content, that's a good way not to do it. Or if I'm trying to carry a message, perhaps he's showing me how not to do it. And I like that thought. So anyway, enough out of me. Thank you for listening. Thank you Earston love you. Thank you for the great feedback and everybody go check out the www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com And check out Anthony trucks and his little tips and tricks.